Thank you for writing this. I did a lot of healing over the last 3 years. Last year I met my current partner. It's been my first "healthy" romantic relationship. I am 36 now. I have never loved in such a healthy way like this. Sure I still have fears of abandonment and sometimes little things trigger me (that I wasn't aware of), but I have grown so much that most of the time I recognize that it's old hurts and I react in a much more conscious and emotionally grown up way.