Thank you for this article. I had a very painful "friendship" not too long ago...and it's funny becauce the signs were clearly there. She always spoke bad about other people, treated waiters in a condescending way and was very needy (as in always needed my help with sth.). But I got sucked in b/c she told me so many sweet things, how much she loved me etc. ... I was very devastated when I decided to cut her out of my life. But now I am immensely grateful I did. I love the T.S. Eliot quote :)